Catfish

After watching the movie Catfish, I found it very odd that Nev did not find it strange that everyone had the same 15 friends. Angela created 16 profiles. I assuming that each of those 16 profiles had many, if not all, of the same 15 friends. I would have found it strange. When someone adds me on Facebook and they do not have very many friends, I tend to see that as a red flag. Not that there aren’t people who do not have a lot of Facebook friends, but I find it unusual that someone I do not know that only has 35 friends would also know me, a girl from a small town and a small private school. Maybe Nev was not thinking this way (but I bet he does now). Maybe Angela added random people on Facebook to get her friend count up on the different profiles. If she did, however, she risked her lie being found out. If she friended someone who actually knew the girl in the picture she used, she would have been found out.

I do not feel that Nev necessarily had to be desperate, lonely, or desperately lonely for him to like Angela’s “daughter.” He did not go out intending to find a girl to love on Facebook. But even if he did, so what!? We cannot control whom we love or how we fall in love. I do not think it is fair to label him in these ways. Just because he was attractive, it does not mean that the women he attracted were what he wanted in a companion. Attractive people do not meet other attractive people and say, “Hey, let’s fall in love because we’re both very attractive.” Attractive people are looking for substance just like most other people. There are plenty of good-looking single people in the world. There are also plenty of good-looking people on online dating sites. I do not see anything wrong with that. If the people you have met and who you are around do not meet your standards, why settle for less? I would rather find love online than never find love at all. I am not saying trust everyone you meet online blindly because that just does not make sense. Use discretion. Nev probably thought he was doing so, but because Angela’s story was so elaborate, he just got caught up in it.